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Six Key Ingredients for lasting Love

The laws of attraction aren’t always fair, and we have all fallen for the wrong person. Although seeking perfection is an idle search for we all have our flaws, if you want to free yourself from repeating patterns and find the right wrong person (as described in Daily Afflictions by Andrew Boyd) here are a few key qualities to look for in a potential partner.

She asked: 'you are in love, what does love look like?' To which I replied: `like everything I have ever lost, come back to me

1. Emotional Maturity

First and foremost. Emotional maturity refers to the ability to understand and manage emotions. An emotional mature person is willing to think and learn about themselves, open to reflecting on the past and evolving in the present. No evolution, no future.

2. Openness

Along with emotional maturity, one of the things to look for in a partner is openness. Open and honest communication is vital to creating and sustaining close and healthy relationship. When a person holds back or puts up a wall there can be no room for growth. No growth, no future

3. Honesty

Honesty builds trust. Being true to your word, keeping your promises, being honest about what is going on within yourself or what’s on your mind are all that it takes for someone to be seen as a reliable, dependable, and trustworthy person. No honesty, no authenticity.

4. Empathy

Often overlooked or under-estimated, empathy is one of the most important human traits. It is the ability to feel, understand and share others' emotions, experience and perspective so we can respond appropriately to the situation. No empathy, no understanding

5 Affection

Physical affection is an important part of life. It is a way people stay connected and close to each other. Keeping your feelings alive means expressing them verbally and physically. No affection, no vibes

6. Communication

Communication is vital to creating and sustaining close and healthy relationship.  Communication allows us to understands differences and create meaningful connections. When a person holds back his or her feelings or puts up a wall the relationship remains on a superficial level. Thankfully, communication is a skill that can be learned.