Sometimes ghosts are alive.
You used to talk. Suddenly no calls, no text messages, noresponses to any of your messages. Odds are, your friend hasn't ended up in jail, and isn't lying dead in a ditch somewhere but, rather, has simply ended your friendship/relationship without bothering to explain or even let you know.
Ta-da! You’ve been ghosted.
Whether in a personal or work situation, being ghosted isone of the worse things that can happen to you, for it will make you question everything, including your self-worth.
When somebody suddenly exits your life without explanation,it feels like someone died. You are left with grief about the loss of what was and what might have been; with a myriad of irrational emotions to sort through, and all kind of unanswered questions: Why did they vanish? Are they well? Are
they going through a crisis? What did I do wrong? Should I reach out one more
time? Were they playing? Did I ever really know this person? Did I hurt them?
Am I the crazy one?
In a world where so many are throwing bricks on others, bethe one who builds bridges with them.
Why would someone choose to simply disappear from anotherperson’s life, without a word? You may never know for sure why you were ghosted. While some people may choose silence over communication because they are unable to have an open and honest conversation, mental health
professionals consider ghosting is a passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse
and cruelty, and being ghosted a “trauma” that can emotionally break down the
person on the receiving end for your brain craves certainty and uncertainty means
pain.
Unless a person presents a threat of some kind, ghosting isnot ok. It is an unhealthy, disrespectful behavior that can hurt someone deeply, and affect their willingness to trust others again.
On the other hand, while the "ghost" may benefitfrom an easy way out, in the short run, they did not rise up to the challenge of elevating their communication skills for the future. Unfortunately, if you
have been ghosted tall you can do is to remind yourself that other people’s choices do not define you as much as they define them.
"Ghosting, also known as simmering or icing, is acolloquial term which describes the practice of ending all communication and
contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and
ignoring any subsequent attempts to communicate."